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@AnaMassien Trouble starts when the observer comes in to try to make it better but ends up becoming the most hated because of a misunderstanding which was never resolved at its source. no matter how strong your abilities at any skill may be at using it in practice for life benefits, you can't win people over if they aren't looking at you to do it while you do what you think is right for them. They have to be put in their place by their own hand. It doesn't mean you can't live without them however, it just means no pushing of levels for all involved so everyone can understand you are not a threat and lets forget about the change nobody likes as it already shifted into something else by the time we grasp the idea of what it seems to be in the current here and now.

@ElsharaSilverheart I tend to disagree with this, in that if you try steer people in the right path like someone asks me how they can turn their life around at 30 because they are divorced with two kids and they just want to live more simple.

I can tell them what I think they could or should do.

They can listen but at same time not listen. People should not ask for life coaching if they do not want to follow step by step. That's how that works. You can't work with a trainer to lose weight for three weeks and blow your diet and training for the next week because you totally know what you are doing. Yeah, your blowing off your training for a week to eat like a freak and laze around lol

Then again are we gluttons for punishment because we have been sent here to help others cope with stress etc?

No I believe we have to be just as demanding to them as they would be of us in the long run. People have lost touch with themselves and no alien ship or ancient language spoken is going to work, you have to be comfortable with here and yourself, and I used to not be, so I worked with myself enough to where I finally was.

I know if I can change, and be just as drastically demanding on myself and spare myself no breaks others can benefit from it as well. You are somewhere between a mother and a drill sargent, you can either be respected or not. Not everyone is cut out to be a life coach and not everyone is meant to be reconditioned by them.

That is why you have to be careful of who you interact with, and not play favs with people and be fair. If one party wants to hit the other one, you have to stand in the way and if the other then party wants to swing back you have to stand in the way then too. I am a firm believer of standing in the way of others when I know their gonna make a mistake. Because that is true love...to sacrifice personal feelings for the good of everyone, not just one person but everyone.

@AnaMassien I believe in helping people find heart in something which will benefit them, not make them suffer and then be blind to their suffering. I agree with what you are saying. I believe this has to come from their willingness to understand and be responsible for making a change to follow the steps and not only live by them, but focus on them to live in a here and now different from what they know to prevent their suffering. If someone is going to hand you a life line, you can't wave it about in another direction, you have to follow it to see where it leads. My problem is when people hand you life lines which are leading to more suffering, but they call it acceptance, because they stand in the way of someone who cares about the interest at hand.

@AnaMassien There are a lot of cases where situations in life can be multi-layered. They are the most challenging to grasp because you have to do so much change at once. I'm not just talking about life style, I'm talking about complete life perceptions. A lot of people think in order to be good at something, you have to perceive its worth and your contribution to its worth for it to grow. But if the perception itself is blocked, and yet you are still being counted on to grow with it, how can you accept it?

If there is no light then sometimes its our ownselves holding ourselves back or in check so much no light can be guided or shined.

I tend to not look to other people or what not to create the light I hope my path shines by. I look to myself to need only the little light and dark and shadow I exist with to light what needs lit and keep dark which needs kept.

It depends on the player or the person in question how to venture into life; life will exist never the less; but people need to get out there and make their differences, proof to live by not because life needs to be lived, but because we are all here to do not what must be done but by what we enjoy it by, some people are here to help others on their paths and some fail to the see the sign for the road their own, too busy or too wide so they hide in the sewer drain. You can't be afraid to live life just because there is roadkill in the road lol

Rather than be a solitary hero always alone; you must be the hero that always will be around the people their meant to save.

@AnaMassien This is exactly why I join community membership to find an environment like this where everyone there knows the balance of life and the peace which comes with it. This knowledge is like a fire awakening in your soul to help you discover and guide you to the dreams you wish to make real one day. There are certain aspects of polar change I can tolerate, the BDSM life style is one of my interests around this type of environment. But I still also need my freedom to not jut invest into the polarity of commitment or rejection, because a focus is only as valid as the here and now. If you don't share it, you'll never find it in anyone else but yourself and vice versa.

Looking for love won't always mean you'll find it. Looking to be loved means you'll see it to know where to interact if it comes to pass. the same concept applies to communities. Being a hero as you say is not reliant on the people, but on the beings who try to get the people to do something a hero must step in to prevent. Only then can a hero be made, by the source of why a hero, or admin, is necessary as a security officer, but also as a guide, creator and organizer. A manager of sorts. But I still think the role is different from that of a contributor, or lead activist. It only gives you one sided tools, not two sided ways of communication. Necessary if you wish people to see you in action to help them in a dialog between you and them directly.

To make sense of something, you have to understand its purpose for existing in order to position it to where it could be useful to people who need it. Communities just set a different order for how such should be done, left to the imagination to fulfill the structure an admin wishes to make communication happen with the people who dwell at the same house.

Best practices only get you so far. Sometimes we need to see past them to find our own vision to make it happen.

Technically, My dreams are already realized. I have already gotten there, it is thus attained.

I don't personally care for the BDSM lifestyle or ways of living - because there is a "scene" and then there is a "love song" between couples who are intimate in this way with one another. :eyes:⁠ ⁠ I am not a "scene" person. It's all about trust really. If you trust your partner and so on, but not a type of dress or mannerism. Some people just don't understand and hey that's fine. I am not an instruction manual. lol Hit me up in email if you want to know more. I don't think people want to hear this lol

I think in many ways I don't want to share it, because I believe the "love song" only can be experienced with one person. I don't need to replace that, because even if me and that person are apart, we still have "that" lol and most people don't see this. want to know whats up.

I don't want to be loved. I don't want to look for love. Love begins with me. How I treat myself and others. If love is meant, love will come and it must always be balanced with the right trust, loyalty, honor and compassion or it will not work. Just because it tips to one side at one time mean that love is forever slighted or lost.

Love is messy and its plain as your face. You not only get what you give, you take what you give out. So if we treat others right from the beginning we fair well all throughout and there is no end. But if we get jealous and listen to others we will fail.

@AnaMassien I know I have my whole life to live. Well I don't really believe there is a limit on how late or early you believe you are living the life of your dreams. But I do think the balance of love should never be compromised. What is messy about love to me is what you feel you are lacking with it by nature. Some people are taught to struggle with it because society says for legal reasons, it might be better off for you. I personally never vibed with it, which is where my interest in BDSM got me thinking about a better way of life with a little enforcement and acceptance of something that is already shared, just to another level.

There is a draw to it because the alternative is hardship or my other interest in non human love, which could never happen on the level I am looking for. I sometimes have this guilty feeling I'm trying to find a need for someone to fill because i like romance to be the reason, even though it's just an experience I want to have, as a part of several other non related here and now scenarios with the same person. I don't know much about it so would appreciate the email. As for equality, if it can't be reached but love still exists, go for it because your chances at finding another relationship especially from scratch can toll you energetically unless you feel a pull towards the light of the soul you wish to get to know. If it lasts, awesome! I have yet to know what stable, secure love feels like.

In order to find it, you have to have it for yourself, if you don't, like won't attract like.

The emails been sent lol

You can't get into something or someone because its on another level. I don't do anything because its unknown and I want to know it, and taste it and see where it takes me.

You can't force someone to be with you or about you because of a lifestyle, and the way that lifestyle is, because of what is done in it. You participate with it because it strengthens what you already have, not what you must find, or think you need.